Youth and anger, interlude

There were times in my youth when boys and sometimes grown men, who were older, taller and bigger and stronger than me, would wag their tongues in such a way that I’d get offended.

Because I was just a young buck, and didn’t know better, I’d wait til the character was walking away and then come out of hiding and say something that I immediately regretted. I’d say it because I was angry, not because I thought it through.

Well more than half the time, the hooligans who said such to anger me would hear what I said, turn around and address me. They’d say something intimidating like, “What you say?”

Not planning for their retaliation, I’d be taken aback and would clam up or cower. But on some occasions I’d still be bristling. The fighting, however, was always the same, always a loss.

Part of growing up is to develop that emotional shell. So that when someone says something offensive, but otherwise harmless, it bounces right off.

The other part of growing up is to deal with the wounds from the words and actions that found their way past that tough exterior.

Forgiveness goes a long way. It’s the modern way to “turn the other cheek” when someone slaps you.

–from a 1998 interview with famed actor Gilford “Whiskers” Allsworth-Dinnersmith, who most recently has made an autobiographical work.

In it Mr. Allsworth-Dinnersmith talks about his childhood, his early career as a stuntman, and how he got discovered to become the famous playwright he is today.

Response to anger, interlude

..When the friends of your friends on Facebook, who don’t know you and are not going to listen or agree with what you wrote, give a response that would scald a dog, what do you do?..

..When I get a cutting response, at least ten immediate answers go through my mind. Had I been younger I would have said something crazy, but now I’m more hesitant..

..Now instead I think about it and don’t say anything. I’m not sure if it’s a wise choice or not, but I was brought up to treat people how I’d like to be treated.

–from John E. Sloth-Whittaker-June, author of “Responding to Angry Facebook: How not to hold a grudge.” Published on June, 2013.

Contrary to his advice, Mr. Sloth-Whittaker-June had a tendency to do just what he advised not to do.

Rumor has it he would make people on social media incensed on purpose, and then wrote down their responses to be written and later published in his book.

When asked about it in a Twitter response, Mr. Sloth-Whittaker-June angrily denied the claim.